Under the protection, guidance, and blessing of parents or mentors, the couple concentrates on developing a deep friendship that could lead to marriage, as they discern their readiness for marriage and God’s timing for their marriage.(See Proverbs 3:5–7.)Courtship is a choice to avoid temptation and experience the blessings of purity.While those who choose courtship will hold to general guidelines for the relationship, their specific choices about when, where, and how to court may differ according to their needs and circumstances.
In contrast, a Biblical courtship is based on what God knows about each partner and on His plans for their futures.
Jesus gave this instruction with a promise: (Matthew ).
Both parties, as well as their families and all the people who love them, should continue to trust in the Lord and accept the grace He gives to deal with any disappointment or unfulfilled hopes. The main difference between dating and courtship involves the goals to be reached by spending time with a potential marriage partner.
Men and women who choose to date often have no commitment to consider marrying the other person.
The dangers of defrauding can be avoided more successfully, and an honest, open friendship can be nurtured and protected. Since one of the most important decisions we will make is the decision of marriage, we should make every effort to know and do God’s will in this area.