Myth: If I don’t feel an instant attraction to someone, it’s not a relationship worth pursuing.Fact: This is an important myth to dispel, especially if you have a history of making inappropriate choices.Remember that first impressions aren't always reliable, especially when it comes to Internet dating.
Instant sexual attraction and lasting love do not necessarily go hand-in-hand.
Emotions can change and deepen over time, and friends sometimes become lovers—if you give those relationships a chance to develop. Fact: Women and men feel similar things but sometimes express their feelings differently, often according to society’s conventions.
By shedding all pretense, you’ll encourage the other person to do the same, which can lead to an honest, more fulfilling relationship. It’s only natural to worry about how you’ll come across and whether or not your date will like you.
But no matter how shy or socially awkward you feel, you can overcome your nerves and self-consciousness and forge a great connection. To combat first-date nerves, focus your attention on what your date is saying and doing and what’s going on around you, rather than on your internal thoughts.
For many of us, our emotional baggage can make finding the right romantic partner a difficult journey.